Watch this video to learn about why Divorce Mediation is important. In this video Ellie Tipton Ortiz discusses her passion for mediation and why she feels that mediation is the best option when going through a divorce. Ellie has successfully guided thousands toward settlement:
Ellie assists the divorcing couple in formulating ideas, which can eventually lead to agreements that will stand the test of time. Sometimes agreements come easy, and sometimes they take a lot of work. Generally, a mediator intervenes when agreements are hard to reach.
Specifically, Ellie fosters open communication between spouses to establish the same base of information, brainstorms ideas, ensures that expectations are realistic, nurtures empathy, and provides clarity within the decision-making process. Ellie’s compassionate approach formulates a respectful relationship between spouses that is beneficial to all those involved.
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Uncontested Divorce is the other service offered for those couples who have all issues resolved prior to utilizing our service. The cost for this service is a $1,500 flat fee. Our office only deals with the Petitioner and all financial exchanges take place privately between the parties without our involvement. This is a paperwork only service and must be resolved completely within 3 months of commencement.
The hourly rate for mediation is $500 per hour.
What Is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce mediation is about you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse deciding your own divorce and what is best for the both of you and most importantly, for your children. In mediation, you and your spouse meet with a neutral third party, the mediator, Ellie Tipton Ortiz, and with Ellie’s help, you work through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effective as possible. Ellie does this by assisting the divorcing couple in formulating ideas that can eventually lead to agreements.
In mediation, the couple, with the help of the mediator, works out agreements on the above issues. Sometimes agreements come easy, sometimes they take time and a lot of work. When agreements are hard to reach, that is when the mediator intervenes. It is the mediators job to keep the lines of communication open, brainstorm ideas, reality test the couple, teach empathy and assist the couple in their decision making process. Mediators help keep the couple focused on the issues at hand, trying not to get them off track. When divorcing couples get off track and away from the above issues during mediation, arguing, name-calling and bad prior memories are brought up.
Mediation is flexible and confidential. It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflict between you in a way that helps you to work together as parents. This is extremely important if you have children and must interact with your ex-spouse after you are divorced. Mediation brings about communication between the couple, which can then be used when they must discuss issues pertaining to the children. Lack of communication may have been one of the main reasons for their divorce. Mediation has the ability to help the couple learn to communicate again, if only for the sake of the children, and make their post-divorce relationship better than their married one.
A divorce mediator is neutral and doesn’t “work” for either parent. This means the mediator cannot give advice to either party. They must remain neutral no matter what the situation.
What the mediator can do, though, is assist the divorcing couple in formulating ideas that can eventually lead to agreements that will stand the test of time. That open and free exchange of information frees up both spouses to negotiate with each other in confidence. Because both spouses are working with the same base of information, it usually takes far less time to negotiate a solution that makes sense to both spouses.
Mediation is voluntary. It continues only for so long as all three of you – you, your spouse, and the mediator — want it to. Mediation can be conducted weekly, every two weeks, monthly or however often the couple wants it to be. This is your mediation and you decide everything in the process.
How long does divorce mediation take?
The length of mediation depends on what issues have been agreed to prior to mediation and those issues that need to be addressed during mediation. Also, the amount of time spent in mediation is contingent upon you and your spouse’s willingness to come to agreements that are equitable for the both of you and your willingness to do what is in the best interests of your children. The time spent in mediation can be reduced if you and your spouse are able to come to agreements prior to mediation, or at the least, narrow down your options to a few workable ones. However, if you and your spouse are not able to discuss your divorce outside of mediation, it is strongly recommended that you avoid it at all costs. When couples try to work out issues on their own and it leads to arguments and “drawing lines in the sand”, it makes mediation more difficult and time consuming.
On average, pre-decree divorce mediation can be completed in 6-10 sessions. Again, how long it takes really depends on what if any communication there is between the divorcing couples and their level of animosity for each other. If either of the spouses is unwilling to budge from their certain position on a divorce issue(s), mediation may not be an option for them and they may have to litigate in court. Once this happens, communication is shut down and the fight begins.
How much does divorce mediation cost?
The average mediated case costs $5,000 and is settled in less than 90 days. In turn, the litigated case in the courts cost $20,000-$60,000 and takes on average 18 months to settle. Keep in mind, the litigated cases lead to more spite and frustration between the divorcing couples, usually leading to a lose/lose situation for both. Not many people walk away from a litigated divorce feeling satisfied. On the other hand, couples who go through mediation feel satisfied with the agreements they have reached and both walk away feeling that they have gotten most of what they anticipated.
Who would you rather have decide what happens with your children and assets after a divorce, you during mediation or attorneys and judges during a divorce in the courts? Who knows more about you, attorneys, judges or you? Why let people who know nothing about you tell you how you are going to live the rest of your life?
Also, divorce in the court system is public domain. Anybody can sit in court and hear the specifics of your divorce. On the other hand, mediation is confidential, private and conducted behind closed doors. In mediation, there are no attorneys putting up walls between you and your spouse. Mediation is about working together, doing things in the best interest of your children and focusing on being able to be parents for your children for years to come. Unfortunately, divorce in the court system is designed to put up that wall and limit communication, which inevitably leads to many post-divorce problems and many more hours and thousands of dollars in court.
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